Chris Brown Goes To Court; Rihanna Stands By Her Man...Again - Page 4
Very typical behavior both for someone who is abusive and their victim...the abuser will often cut off the lines of communication to loved ones and friends; sometimes, the victim even cuts off communication on their own because they don't want to be talked out of what they know deep down is a bad decision. In the article I wrote earlier in the week, I said that if he abuses you once, he will abuse you again...which sadly seems to have come true in this case. It doesn't matter what the problem is, there is no excuse for abuse. Rihanna has gone back to Chris, her abuser, and it can be inferred that this isn't the first time she's gone back to him after he has abused her in some way.
I realize, as a parent, we try to be a good role model for our children; but I'd be pretty stupid if I didn't realize that children and young people also look up to people such as sports players, musicians, singers, and movie stars. I worry that, as a woman that other young women admire, Rihanna's actions send the wrong message...that it is okay if you lose it with someone you supposedly care for and use them as a punching bag, as long as you say you are really really sorry after the fact. After all, "fan" is just short for "fanatic", and often fans just don't see when the object of their adulation is making bad choices.
Now, having said that, do I believe that all abusers are too far gone to ever be rehabilitated? No, I don't. But I also realize that an abusive person is not changed overnight. It takes a long time to change behavior patterns, learn new ways of handling problems, and learning how to not abuse others...it certainly isn't something that you learn in less than a month. Rihanna going back to Chris in less than a month's time, in my opinion, just doesn't give her the perspective she needs to see this event in its true light. He beat the crap out of her; she goes back in less than a month's time. And don't forget, he didn't just beat her up, he totally went psychotic and smashed her face against a car window, tried to shove her out of the car, put her in a headlock that caused her to start to pass out, and bit her repeatedly. Read the police report. Something is definitely not right here.
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