Chris Brown Goes To Court; Rihanna Stands By Her Man...Again - Page 5
And, quite frankly, for the abuser, it takes more than words to change; it even takes more than making a decision to change. Words are cheap, it's actions that show one's true character. An alcoholic has to do more than say they won't drink again; a drug addict has to do more than decide not to pick up the needle; someone addicted to porn has to do more than make up their mind not to look at those images; an abuser has to do more than talk the talk. And it is not just a one-time thing, but an every day decision...sometimes, even a moment to moment decision. This is something that takes time...it's a long healing process, not a quick band-aid.
If this has happened over and over, it is painfully obvious to everyone BUT Rihanna that Chris hasn't changed, he's just managed to once again charm his way back into her good graces. He needs to change, and he is the only one who can make himself change. We're talking therapy, counseling, whatever it takes, for a long time...perhaps years. A lifetime of learned abusive behavior isn't going to suddenly turn into love and respect overnight. She needs to stay far, far away from him while he works to get his life straightened out, and even then I'm not so sure I'd advise her to go back. He also definitely needs to be punished for what he did to her. It might be okay, it might not, but only time will tell, and time is what they aren't giving it.
Only in fairy tales does it take solely the love of a good woman to change the beast to a prince...in reality, the woman has to love herself enough first to decide that she's too good to be treated like dirt.
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