Virile in My 40s
I'm a divorced dad on the dating scene, and can I just point out, without being too crude, that a woman recently said to me: dang, you're virile! I didn't expect that from a man in his 40s.
Sigh.
Why is it that women expect men to lose the urge to get it on once we start inching up and over the hill? (Yeah, I'm middle aged. I don't have a problem with that.)
I first noticed this phenomenon with internet dating.
I've been divorced nearly 10 years, so I'm sort of an online dating expert. (Not something to crow about, I'm just stating a fact.)
In my 30s, I got dates on all the online sites, no problem. Match.com, yahoo personals, chemistry.com, salon.com, even craigslist - I was an online dating maven. Meet for margaritas, flirt and chat, maybe end up dating, maybe just hook up. (I'm not saying that's the healthiest approach, but even single parents need physical intimacy.)
And the day I turned 40? The dates dried up.
Apparently, a lot (LOT!) of women in the Bay Area filter out single men in their 40s as potential dating prospects. (That sounds redundant, with potential and prospect in the same phrase. But anyone who has dated online is surely nodding their head that I wrote that phrase just right.)
One woman on a date finally confessed to me: it's common knowledge (i.e. written in Cosmopolitan magazine) that once a man turns 40, he's no longer, um, trying to be delicate here... virile. (Dang, that was HARD to find the right word.)
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